Wow. Thank you, Greta...and those who have commented so far. :-) It appears most of you are introverts.
I am an EXTREME EXTROVERT. My husband in very much an introvert. He tries to explain in bits and pieces. After 30 years together you would think I understand it.
You have shared a valuable peek in the mind and heart of an introvert that I appreciate so very much. This is a good relational tool and I appreciate it.
Like your photo...I look at photos of others that I know are introverts and I see the same face. I used to think it was a look of deep sorrow. But I understand better now. :-)
I'm glad to hear that. It's difficult to explain to these things to extroverts. You might really benefit from reading the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain (it's also in audiobook format). It has a lot of insights that might apply to your husband. I'm sure there are a lot of relevant books out there, but I got a lot out of hers. I think she has a Tedtalk, too... although I haven't watched it.
The Frankfurt School adapted Marx’s theories on revolution to include Freud’s theory of the subconscious. The Cultural Marxists’ main focus was to reshape the subconscious of Western men and women and thus create new type of person: one who would react passively to provocations of all kinds.
I love this. I always thought I was an introvert growing up, turns out I am, even though I can handle my own in a group or social setting. LOL, I realized with a lot of self-analysis and self-love that I was pretending to be what I thought would help me to fit in. Once I faced this truth, I realized I needed to come first, and if that meant being the quiet one that everyone thought was odd, I was okay with it. Now I resolutely choose who I exchange energy with. If I have to spend time around those who don't align with my energy (think family get-togethers), I spend a lot of time preparing and building up my energy reserves. Bless you, for sharing.
I relate. As introverts, we're at a distinct disadvantage in our culture. Susan Cain in her book, "Quiet" (which is an awesome book, BTW), says that the introvert/extrovert ratio is about 1:1, although you'd never know it. Like you and me used to, there are a lot of intros pretending to be extro just to fit in. I wonder if that explains a lot of the anxiety and depression in our culture. Pretending is exhausting!
I once had a boss who told me I needed to "Smile more" because I looked mad. OMG. That's my natural resting face! It's a "thinking face"! But she wouldn't know about that... I digress...
Absolutely loved this! I am an extreme introvert while also very comfortable in group/social settings. Although I am comfortable in the role of an extrovert, I do not prefer or enjoy it. I love not leaving my house for days and that most of my friendships exist over the phone. I find great peace in isolation knowing that I am not hiding or avoiding. Now that I am older and known myself better, I find that most of my closet friends are also introverts- paying close attention to the world around them. Thanks again for your lovely point of view.
Oh I relate so much to this! People ask if I struggle with loneliness out here on the hill, tied to the farm with a flock of sheep for company. Nope, I’ve chosen the isolation and quietness because I’m extremely introverted and need vast amounts of time alone. A trip to town requires days of recovery!
Guessing all of our unique childhoods have brought us all here to be more internal navigators. I work off feelings all the time. Always slow to respond which made some tell me I was dumb. I knew I wasn’t just took it all in before I too could or would respond.
Already I’ve responded more than I ever have in life
The old adage "God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason" comes to mind here. :-) You can learn a lot by observation and listening. People will always tell you exactly who they are if you're listening.
It's hard to know whether I'm picking up other people's energies accurately without asking them point-blank how they're feeling. It could just be me projecting, otherwise. I definitely feel "ill at ease" around some people immediately, though (like an internal alarm going off) - that feeling where you just need to leave...
It's helpful to learn to close yourself off a bit (like a forcefield) so you can chose when to be affected and when not to be. Still working on that one... :-)
I will order the book! I have a lot on my plate but better understanding those we love is most important. Thank you - Always. ;-)
Wow. Thank you, Greta...and those who have commented so far. :-) It appears most of you are introverts.
I am an EXTREME EXTROVERT. My husband in very much an introvert. He tries to explain in bits and pieces. After 30 years together you would think I understand it.
You have shared a valuable peek in the mind and heart of an introvert that I appreciate so very much. This is a good relational tool and I appreciate it.
Like your photo...I look at photos of others that I know are introverts and I see the same face. I used to think it was a look of deep sorrow. But I understand better now. :-)
I'm glad to hear that. It's difficult to explain to these things to extroverts. You might really benefit from reading the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain (it's also in audiobook format). It has a lot of insights that might apply to your husband. I'm sure there are a lot of relevant books out there, but I got a lot out of hers. I think she has a Tedtalk, too... although I haven't watched it.
The Frankfurt School adapted Marx’s theories on revolution to include Freud’s theory of the subconscious. The Cultural Marxists’ main focus was to reshape the subconscious of Western men and women and thus create new type of person: one who would react passively to provocations of all kinds.
https://nordicresistancemovement.org/what-is-cultural-marxism/
I love this. I always thought I was an introvert growing up, turns out I am, even though I can handle my own in a group or social setting. LOL, I realized with a lot of self-analysis and self-love that I was pretending to be what I thought would help me to fit in. Once I faced this truth, I realized I needed to come first, and if that meant being the quiet one that everyone thought was odd, I was okay with it. Now I resolutely choose who I exchange energy with. If I have to spend time around those who don't align with my energy (think family get-togethers), I spend a lot of time preparing and building up my energy reserves. Bless you, for sharing.
I relate. As introverts, we're at a distinct disadvantage in our culture. Susan Cain in her book, "Quiet" (which is an awesome book, BTW), says that the introvert/extrovert ratio is about 1:1, although you'd never know it. Like you and me used to, there are a lot of intros pretending to be extro just to fit in. I wonder if that explains a lot of the anxiety and depression in our culture. Pretending is exhausting!
I once had a boss who told me I needed to "Smile more" because I looked mad. OMG. That's my natural resting face! It's a "thinking face"! But she wouldn't know about that... I digress...
Absolutely loved this! I am an extreme introvert while also very comfortable in group/social settings. Although I am comfortable in the role of an extrovert, I do not prefer or enjoy it. I love not leaving my house for days and that most of my friendships exist over the phone. I find great peace in isolation knowing that I am not hiding or avoiding. Now that I am older and known myself better, I find that most of my closet friends are also introverts- paying close attention to the world around them. Thanks again for your lovely point of view.
Oh I relate so much to this! People ask if I struggle with loneliness out here on the hill, tied to the farm with a flock of sheep for company. Nope, I’ve chosen the isolation and quietness because I’m extremely introverted and need vast amounts of time alone. A trip to town requires days of recovery!
I can relate to that! Going to town can be exhausting, for many reasons.
Guessing all of our unique childhoods have brought us all here to be more internal navigators. I work off feelings all the time. Always slow to respond which made some tell me I was dumb. I knew I wasn’t just took it all in before I too could or would respond.
Already I’ve responded more than I ever have in life
The old adage "God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason" comes to mind here. :-) You can learn a lot by observation and listening. People will always tell you exactly who they are if you're listening.
So relatable! I’ve finally slowed down out in the woods away from the buzz finally getting to know myself and my soulmate.
What a fantastic article! You've taught me much about myself in these paragraphs.
Are you also an empath? Do you pick up on energies and feelings in groups of people that likewise affect your inner self?
That drives me insane in public! 🤯
It's hard to know whether I'm picking up other people's energies accurately without asking them point-blank how they're feeling. It could just be me projecting, otherwise. I definitely feel "ill at ease" around some people immediately, though (like an internal alarm going off) - that feeling where you just need to leave...
It's helpful to learn to close yourself off a bit (like a forcefield) so you can chose when to be affected and when not to be. Still working on that one... :-)